It’s Been A Long Week

I don’t usually post about my husband but I figured at least one person might wonder why I haven’t been very active lately.  A few weeks ago my husband went for his yearly work physical and it was discovered that he had a small hernia.  He knows when it happened and it was work related. He didn’t realize it was a hernia but once the Dr. told him it was, it suddenly started hurting. lol.

So, my husband went to our family Dr. and was referred to a surgeon, who scheduled surgery for it.  Last Thursday my son and I awoke at 5am in order to get my husband to the hospital to have his surgery.  It was a long day but Vincent did really well in the waiting room. So well that people even commented on how well-behaved he was!  For a teething toddler that seems to be starting his terrible two’s early, I was amazed and delighted.  However, everything was pretty much down hill from there lol.

When we got home my husband firmly planted himself on the couch and stayed there, doped up for a few days.   Now it’s been a whole week and he’s bored and I’m aggravated.  Most of my day has been consisting of telling Vincent not to jump on his pappa because he has a boo boo.  And most of my husbands day is spent complaining about Vincent.  Not that my son is actually jumping on him, but of course he runs around the house like a madman sometimes and throws things once in a while because he thinks it’s funny.. and he talks, and whines.. and whines a little more.  Like I said, he’s teething (with molars) so he has been a little bit difficult lately.

Anyway… I do love my husband, but we can’t spend a lot of time together. It doesn’t work.  He works throughout the week and is only home on the weekends, so this has been a change for everyone.  I don’t mind him being home and I certainly don’t mind taking care of him.  I used to work in home health care and I’ve seen a lot of horrible things and I was always the one who would do the things no other employee would Ie: bowel care (don’t ask), wound care etc.  My husbands incision is not too bad and it’s healing nicely.. but to him it’s bad. Why? Because he’s never had any type of surgery before.  I myself have had 3 major surgeries and have 12 inch scar on my abdomen to remember one of them by.  So sometimes it can be hard for me to fret over something much smaller. Especially when I know he will be fine (and I know many other things that are much worse that could have happened).

So.. let me get to the point here.  I can’t wait for my husband to return to work. Not because I want him out of here, but because it makes me nervous.  I’m worried his job may fire him unfairly, I’m worried that my son may jump on him or hit him on accident and I’ll be blamed and because I’m tired of trying to do everything short of cage Vincent up.  I just want him to heal well and be able to go back to functioning 100%.. and that’s what he wants also.  2 years ago he loved being on the couch all day and watching tv.. Thankfully he now likes working. (Let’s not go there).

But… and here’s the big but… How does one heal properly when they won’t take care of themselves? The first day he was home he got a bday package from his parents, inside were 3 GIANT chocolate bars.  Even though not two weeks earlier his mom had txt messaged me to make sure that I got him a dental appt.   You see, he has a lot of dental work that needs to be done.  His teeth look fine from the outside but once you take a look inside.. my god, it’s a nightmare.   An $8000 nightmare. That was the estimate more than 2 years ago.  Can you imagine? I can’t.. I’ve always taken great care of my teeth and I don’t eat much candy.  His mother was worried he could die from the current root canal he needs.   I think he forgot to tell her that I have needed a root canal for at least 3 years  now and was told last year that I have an exposed nerve.  My problems are due to stress though, and grinding my teeth. It’s too long of a story for right now, but some years ago I had an abnormal growth spurt which caused my jaw to grow and move out of place. Now I can’t close my teeth together and I am NEVER able to rest my jaw.. therefore I grind my teeth at night once I am asleep and trying to relax.  That surgery would cost $30k but first I would need braces for a year, for which I certainly don’t have the money.

So yeah, back to not taking care of one-self.  How does anyone expect to feel better when they eat 3 GIANT chocolate bars in only 1 1/2 days. On top of that, drinking gallons of 100% fruit juice, sweet tea, and cola does NOT help!  He has been home for 1 week and I have not seen him drink more than 1 bottle of water, even though I stressed the importance of water over and over.  So guess what?  After the chocolate and the cola and everything else junk related, he didn’t feel well!  Well DUH.

Let me just also tell you that when I went outside to recycle. I discovered that many cigarettes had been snuffed out directly onto my recycling box!!!  This did not go over well with me.

So yeah.. I’m ready for him to go back to work for a lot of reasons.  It’s really too much work with an incapacitated adult in our little 500 sq. ft. house and a toddler who loves to get into trouble.   Any other time it wouldn’t be so hard but considering my own tooth has been acting up and that I was diagnosed with a vitamin D insufficiency a couple months ago, along with PCOS (That I already knew I had), AND having tendinitis in my leg/hip area.. it’s just tooo much!  I was told to relax, put a warm pad on my leg/hip and given pain meds and a muscle relaxer.  They help but… THE ONLY CURE FOR TENDONITIS IS REST.   How do you rest when you’re running around all day long? And how do you manage to stay on a healthy diet when the other adult in your house requests pizza for dinner?  It’s hard.. and it makes for a really long week……….. with no end in sight.